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Love and the Art of Forgiveness

March 2013 By Carmen Allgood Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

At some point, each of us will reach that most depressing point in life where we just want to throw in the towel, call it quits, and abandon earth. When we aren’t certain of our purpose in life, we find ourselves in the most uncomfortable position of feeling helpless and hopeless. We will then start looking for a better way and embark on a serious, sometimes desperate search for an answer to this problem. Let’s start our journey of learning the art of loving and being loved by admitting that there is nothing anyone will ever desire more than the experience of love in their lives. Surely this is a constant companion and weapon of choice we want to arm ourselves with as we tiptoe through this fierce and unforgiving world.

Becoming a Teacher of Love through the Mastery of Forgiveness is Our Highest Calling Our purpose here is to bring peace to the world. The only part anyone has to play in the accomplishment of this is their own part, which manifests by bringing peace to their own mind. This simplifies the journey immensely when we recognize this is true, and allows us to stay focused on our heart’s desire. Given the fact that nothing is more difficult or exhausting than being unhappy, acknowledging that holding grievances is the underlying cause of all misery is essential to accomplishing our purpose. We are all here having a human experience, and it goes without saying that somewhere along the line we have been injured emotionally.

These experiences are the perfect opportunity for us to rise above the situation, practice forgiveness, and take back our personal power. Learn now to see conflict as a call for help or cry for love – in yourself and others. Surrender Means to Give in to Love Surrender in the ego world is equated with loss, defeat, and sacrifice. In the world of spiritual attainment and perfection, surrender is the Holy Grail and the pivotal moment when we truly realize that we not only have everything, we are everything. There is no need to suffer, and there is no need to learn through pain, because loving lessons are gladly remembered. Surrendering unhappy, unloving thoughts through forgiveness allows us to experience personal healing transformation. When we truly forgive, we release ourselves from conflict and become completely aware of our own invulnerability.

The only reason we want to be a master of forgiveness is so we can be happy, not just some of the time, but all of the time. Forgiveness: A Means to an End Forgiveness is how we surrender to inner peace and happiness, which is not a place or space in time or part of the physical world, but a state of mind. The real question is whether or not we feel worthy of love. Ask if it is possible that anyone can deprive us of love, which is always the problem in any situation. This problem is totally unreal because the separation from love never happened.

The remedy for understanding that this is true is the fact that everyone is, and has always been, connected to the Source of Love. Eclipsing the Means and Attaining Our Goal The third and final step will actually be taken by Love itself, when we have become completely ready and willing to be happy and at peace. Once the means – forgiveness – has been completed, the memory of love floods the mind because all obstacles to peace have been given up in favor of joy. This is not a condition set by love, but a decision the individual has made to side with peace instead of conflict. Conflict resolution can seem to take forever, but only peace of mind is eternal. Surrender.

We are all surrounded with a love so real and gentle, so all-encompassing that it offers us the way out of conflict, loneliness, fear, and releases us forever from the thought of death. Forgive and you will see things differently. Love is the Answer.



If you are waiting for anything to live and love without holding back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important of your life. No future time is better than now to let your guard down and love.

David Deida Source: Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex

Yes, you can get a man to do just about anything, and you know it. So, what are you going to attract him into doing? Buying you a nice house? Giving you the space to guide your own life? Or, offering his deepest gifts to you and all beings while opening his heart to God? Are you a selfish witch, a self-sufficient witch, or a witch for the sake of drawing your man and all beings open as a gift for all?

David Deida Source: Dear Lover

…you have the opportunity to free fall in this moment between birth and death, right through the hole of your fear, into the unthreatenable openess which is the source of your gifts. The superior man lives as this spontaneous sacrifice of love. David Deida

If knowing the truth is sufficient for you, then practice the art of philosophy. If only living the truth will suffice, then practice the art of love through your mind, your emotions, and your body.

David Deida Source: Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex

You can ravish your woman so deeply that her surrender breaks your heart into light.

David Deida Source: The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desire

You’ll never get what you really want. All you can do is give what you really want! David Deida

Anyone who separates being and doing is still enjoying separation. David Deida

Source: “Can you satsang your way to love?” You get function from therapy, flow from yoga, and glow from spirituality. David Deida

Good artists are skilled, but great artists convey an immense depth of feeling through their expertise. The same goes for the art of sex. A good lover knows how to make the body sing. But a great lover, a superior lover, evokes a vast choir of bliss.

Deida Source: The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

You are not only a man, you are a superior man: a man who does his best to live as love in the world and in his intimacy, a man whose heart remains open and whose truth remains strong…If your purpose is to liberate yourself and others into love and freedom, then you should do whatever magnifies the love and freedom in your life and in the lives of whom your actions affect.

David Deida Source: The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desire

The word “surrender” is often interpreted as giving up, as weakness, as admitting defeat. Although this is one way to use the word, we will use it in a different way. Surrendering means letting go of your resistance to the total openness of who you are. It means giving up the tension of the little vortex you believe yourself to be and realizing the deep power of the ocean you truly are. It means to open with no boundaries, emotional or physical, so you ease wide beyond any limiting sense of self you might have.

David Deida Source: Finding God Through Sex: Awakening The One Of Spirit Through The Two Of Flesh

“The amount of consciousness with which you can ravish your woman–the size of your ‘spiritual penis,’ so to speak–is determined by how fully you have surrendered as openness and love. Practice opening as free being, as unbounded love, even as thoughts come and go, fears clench and pass, and desires ebb and flow.”

David Deida Source: Finding God Through Sex: Awakening The One Of Spirit Through The Two Of Flesh

Successfully completing a lesser purpose doesn’t feel good very good for very long, because it is simply preparation for advancing toward a greater embodiment of your deeper purpose. David Deida