Since the past and the future exit right now, then what happened to us five minutes ago, yesterday or ten years ago is now also 13.8 billion years old. Why hold a grudge or be angry or seek punishment for something that happen 13.8 billion years ago? There is only the Holy Instant. The Now. Let everything else go. Peace.
Archive for November, 2013
Healing, by its nature, is always a miraculous thing to witness. Even more so when the method of that healing comes from the seemingly simple act of telling a story.
In this case, I was spending most of one summer a few years back just sitting on the back patio and reading. A next door neighbor was a woman who I hadn’t really met, but judged to be about 60 or 70 years old. She used a walker and seemed to be in pain most every day. She carried the weight of the world on her shoulders and on her face and in her eyes.
One day we began talking about nothing in particular, and that led to her eventually joining me on the patio to just talk over a period of several days. To be honest, I wasn’t all that interested in what she was talking about, but I didn’t say anything.
What I didn’t know was that she was talking about a life filled with Catholic guilt and shame. Since I shared neither of these issues (not being religious), I had no judgment about what she was saying. Her life seemed perfectly fine to me.
But she continued talking, hesitantly at first, then more and more openly, when she realized she wasn’t going to be shut down by someone else’s judgments, as she had been all her life.
More and more came out. I became more and more interested and listened more and more intently, but always with no judgment or criticism; no reinforcement of her guilt and shame.
She began to cry, sobbing tears, wracked with emotions.
And the storm passed.
And then the miracle: The next day she was without her walker. She looked her real age of 49. The wrinkles on her face had vanished and light sparkled in her eyes. She threw away her medications.
She had been healed.
By simply being allowed to tell her story without it being judged as good or bad. By simply being listened to, without trying to be solved. By simply being present for another person.
It is the power of the silent witness.
And it says you’re perfect and always have been. That your life is an honorable one, regardless of what you feel guilty about, or are ashamed of.
It says that your life — all our lives — are a master work of art — the dark and the light.
That there is really nothing to be healed.
It is fairly obvious to most by now that the current state of the planet and our various cultures is the end result of a millennium-old battle between the masculine and the feminine energies, a battle that was probably inevitable, but which should never have been waged in the first place. And it began in full force when the masculine/power-based religions took over the goddess/earth-based spiritual practices.
Though I also firmly believe that, left unchecked and unbalanced, those very same goddess energies that we now think on with such romance would have become just as unbalanced and power-based and destructive as the masculine energies. The feminine is not inherently better or more healthy or more spiritual than the masculine. Each must integrate with the other.
The good news is that, after the bloodbath of history, and the recent battle of the sexes, this integration is beginning to occur. Women are beginning to turn from the historically necessary evolution of (often angry — and justifiably so) feminism to the transcendent energy of the goddess. It is the goddess energy which transcends politics and culture and history (and the victimization needs within each) — and even power — to become all of it — and none of it. It simply IS.
The male is beginning to reclaim the true nature of the masculine, which fully embraces the feminine within, and knows that true power — divine power — is found in the play of the yin and the yang. That godhood energy isn’t about dominance, but completion and freedom. It is not about power over others, but power through others and with others. It understands that destruction is not an end in itself, but a process of creation. And it knows that it can accomplish none of its goals without the equal partnership of the feminine.
For too long now — since perhaps the beginning of this earth experience — sex has been — for the most part — an act that happens outside of spiritual practice. Aside from the ancient knowledge of tantra and sexual alchemy, sex is about the bedroom, but not also about the alter.
I have often found it curious that we spend so much time in yoga and meditation and prayer with the intent to stimulate our higher selves and to energize our connection to the Divine, and yet we don’t include the primal life force energy of sex into those practices. Perhaps even the most “enlightened” of us still think of sexual energy as something to be risen above; that sexual energy is no doubt pleasurable, but ultimately a little too human and more than a little tawdry.
Do some spiritual folks have issues with sexual energy because the sex organs and chakras are ‘lower’ on the body and therefore not ‘higher’ centers? Is it because they are closer to our organs of elimination, and therefore “dirty?”
Of course, there is no ‘up’ or ‘down’, ‘higher’ or ‘lower’ in the multidimensional universe. It all IS.
And god no! You can’t include self-pleasuring or masturbation or sexual touch in the midst of a daily spiritual practice —just think what Jesus would do?!?! (First of all, Jesus or Yeshua or whomever you connect with couldn’t care less about what you do in your spiritual practice — short of hurting yourself or someone else. And secondly, everyone on the other side of the veil would breathe an enormous sigh of relief if we would once and for all get over our childish hang-ups about God-given sexual pleasure.)
(And now comes the point where again I have to state that I am only talking about the individual or couple or group experience of sexual energy through informed mutual consent.)
And we should also get over our hang-ups about pornography (though I prefer the word erotica; pornography feels like a male-created word and an angry-female exploited word used to continue to keep sexual pleasure and power out of everyone’s hands).
And there are women who enjoy pornography, just as there are men who don’t. (There’s an old biology adage that it only takes one white crow to disprove the “fact” that all crows are black.)
And we must also come to terms with the truth that erotica/pornography — like everything else on the planet — has its dark side and its light side. Not all women are victims of it. Not all pornography is created by men. Not all pornographic performers were abused as children.
A pornographic performer can be just as much of a healer as any shaman: they can help us to open to our true, often-hidden sexual natures. Perhaps in another life a current pornographic performer or artist was deeply repressed or ashamed of their sexual natures. Perhaps in this lifetime they chose to come back to fully embrace their sexual natures and share that power with all of us.
As Yeshua says — and absolutely means —do not judge others. We do not know their path. We have not walked in their shoes.
We are born through the sex act. The universe was created out of energetic orgasm. The primary force that gives life to our existence is the sexual energy. The simple fact that it feels so damn good should be a clue that we should be experiencing more or it.
Of course, our western, and puritanical culture in particular, resists anything that feels good. Feeling good all the time is irresponsible and probably “sinful.” In a very twisted logic, pleasure all the time isn’t good for you and is bad for the American family and therefore the world.
Bullshit. And hogwash (see the blog about language). This idea is yet one more legacy of the unbalanced influence of the distorted masculine energy designed solely to keep the human spirit disempowered, while keeping certain males — and masculine women — very much in power.
We celebrate violence in our cultures, but hide sexuality away — unless it is to sell something, and then sex is presented only as adolescent and snickering.
In order to balance the male and female on the planet and in our cultures, we must first balance it in ourselves. We must get over any and all feelings of guilt and shame and embarrassment over sex. We must learn to approach sexual energy as equally important as every other energy in our lives and in our spiritual practices.
Stimulating and circulating sexual energy through the physical and energetic body should be a daily practice. Bringing joy to the body should be a daily practice. It not only simply feels good, but it energizes every healing aspect of the physical and energetic body.
(How to circulate sexual energy? Place the tip of the tongue against the top of the mouth and inhale down the front of the body and exhale up the spine. At the moment of sending the energy up the spine, you might clinch the PC muscles near the perineum. You can also inhale up the spine and exhale down the front; whatever feels most comfortable to you. Make sure you ground yourself. And when you’re done, take a few moments and direct the energy to the area just below your navel for storage. Finally, rub yourself all over, spreading out the remaining energy, and watch how your complexion, general health and spirit improves.)
Of course, like any spiritual practice, sexual energy must be respected and understood and honored and protected. It must never be used to attack, whether in real life or in the imagination (excepting absolutely the importance of mutual consent role playing and game playing). Like everything else, intent is everything.
Always ground your sexual energy to Mother Earth and Father Sky. Always fill it with Light and Love and Joy. Always share it with the world as a joyful, playful, powerful healing force.
Study tantra and kundalini and the kama sutra (I also encourage reading the works of David Deida). Go to the sex store, or online, and buy sex toys. Play with masturbation. Find out where your limitations are and ask yourself why they’re there. Ask for guidance. Call in the energies of the goddess and the gods.
But for god’s sake, don’t make it a spiritual chore. Sex was a gift we gave to ourselves long before we incarnated on the planet. It was an extraordinary gift of fun and play and joy and pleasure that we gave to ourselves — and each other — to be experienced at any time.
All the time.
Finally, after freeing oneself from sexual fear and dogma, use that new freedom to release all attachment, even to sex and the body.
Because ultimately sex is a poor substitution for Divine Union.
Remember, sex is something that not even the angels and archangels can experience.
But we can.
Now let’s all go out and play.
There is a gateway within each of, a miraculous door through which can pass to us health and self-healing, unconditional love, non-judgment, joy and bliss. A door through which we can pass at any moment of our day into a place of non-judgment, unconditional love, health and self-healing, joy and bliss. This door is always open, we have only to turn towards it. That door is meditation.
What exactly is meditation? What it is not is relaxation, although relaxation is one of the results of meditating. It is not prayer, although once in a meditative state prayer becomes much more powerful and effective. Prayer is asking, meditating is listening. Listening to what? To your conscience, your higher self, the universe. Each of which have a tough time getting through to us because of the continual ‘static’ and ‘noise’ of our lives and our thoughts.
The object is to move beyond our thoughts, between our thoughts, and thinking process into a state of non-judgmental awareness — into true beingness, where we find ourselves existing absolutely in the present moment.
This occurs when our breath becomes calm and focused, when the sensations of the body begin to melt away and when the left and right hemispheres of the brain move closer into synchronization. And then the gateway opens into the Divine realm where our health is perfect, love unconditional and fear nonexistent.
The medical and emotional benefits of meditating have been proven beyond a doubt time and again. It was recently discovered than meditating for fifteen minutes, once a day, for just fourteen days was enough to change the entire brain structure and its weight and mass, building-up those portions of the brain for well-being and healing, peace and calm, and shrinking those portions focused on fear and stress and anger.
Remember, meditating is not about relaxing, so once you start, if you find yourself nodding off, then stop and get some rest. You need to be alert.
Thoughts and ‘noise’ will creep into your meditation, it happens with everyone. Don’t fight these random thoughts, that only makes them stronger. Let them pass through your mind like clouds on a summer day. Acknowledge them and let them move on. They will. Don’t judge them as interruptions and in a negative way. Let them be what they are: passing thoughts.
If unexpected noises occur while you’re meditating, treat them the same way. In a way that is often difficult to understand, everything is perfect, including unexpected interruptions. An added gift of meditating will be to calm our judging, analytical mind.
For the same reason, you probably shouldn’t meditate while lying down. If you are currently confined to bed, then try to keep your pillows propped up, or have someone guide you through the meditation. You also need to try and keep the spine straight to allow an open channel of energy flow. If you are in a chair, keep your feet flat on the floor. But always make sure you feel comfortable; if meditating doesn’t feel good physically, you won’t want to continue.
Dress comfortably and warmly.
Make the practice of meditating something special in your life, even sacred; you will have a more powerful experience. If you can, create a special place to meditate which is only for that purpose and away from where you find frustrations in your life. Turn off the phone and hide the ticking clocks.
Prepare to not be disturbed for at least fifteen minutes. You can work your way up to a half hour later. If you only get three minutes in the meditation that you feel ‘connected’ — that’s a lot! Give yourself this gift. We have twenty-three and three quarter hours in the day to be tense and nervous; surely we can find ten or fifteen or twenty minutes for our own physical and spiritual healing?
If there is a perfect time to meditate, it would be at sunrise, facing east. Any time in the morning is good, but before you have breakfast. You never want to meditate within an hour of eating as the digestion process will disturb the mind. Some like to meditate around five o’clock, or near sunset. Some just before bed, though for some, that can actually keep them from falling asleep. You can meditate anytime, anywhere. A goal of meditating is to be able to shut off the world on a moment’s notice, in the middle of a crowded room.
Another way to begin the practice is to first balance your breathing. With your eyes closed, take the thumb of your right hand and close off your right nostril, exhale through your left nostril, then inhale through the same nostril. With your index finger of your same hand, now pinch off the left nostril and exhale through the right nostril, then inhale through the right nostril and pinch it off with your thumb. Repeat for five minutes, breathing deeply and gently as you try and follow your breath, listening to it, visualizing it flowing in and out of you. Enjoy it.
Another method to begin your practice, and which is very helpful if you find your thoughts constantly interrupting your meditation, is to fully engage all your senses. In effect, you’re entering the meditative state through the back door.
Listen for everything you can hear; listen for the sounds within the sounds; the truck outside, its engine, its wheels moving against the pavement, are there four wheels or eight?; listen to the lawn mover, the conversation next door; listen to your breathing; to the ringing in your ears; everything. Then feel the clothes against your skin, the carpet under your feet, the bones and muscles, and the blood moving through you; feel your skin and hair and teeth; feel air blowing over your skin; feel heat rising off you; feel the unconscious vibration of sub-atomic elements moving through you. Smell the air and taste your mouth. ‘See’ with your eyes closed, the colors, the patterns — the universe (your optic nerve can actually register the flow of individual atomic photons).
Another technique is to simply follow your breathing. Counting your breaths is a way of engaging your logical mind while freeing your subconscious. Try to match your breathing with your pulse beats and count until you reach a full breath. Five to seven beats is average. Hold your breath for half that number. Exhale to the same pulse beats. Hold your breath out for half that number. Repeat. This is actually the natural way to breathe, the way we were born to breathe. As it is, we only use about 30% of our lung capacity. This helps make the blood alkaline. And disease cannot grow in the presence of a full oxygen content in an alkaline environment.
Another method to focus the mind is to say to yourself silently: “I am aware that I am breathing in (or inhaling)’ and then count the number ’27”. Then: “I am aware that I am breathing out (or exhaling). 26”. Continue counting down until you reach “0”. If you lose your place, begin again.
Another option is to inhale through the nostrils to a full breath, hold the breath for the same amount of time, exhale through the mouth for the same amount, and hold the breath out for the same amount. Continue for a cycle of 12 breaths. This balances the physical, energetic, emotional and mental bodies.
You can repeat your name as a mantra, a mantra being any word or phrase which is repeated over and over, silently or vocally. Repeat any word or phrase which has meaning to you such as “I am at peace” or “Love. Truth. Joy.” or “I am One” or “I desire money (success, love, etc.)”. Again, repeating a mantra engages the logical brain.
It can be very effective to stare at a symbol or picture while speaking a mantra, this works to balance the left and right hemispheres of the brain.
Another idea is to say — vocally or silently — on an inhalation the word “I” and exhale the word “AM”; repeat.
A very powerful method is to intone the mantra of “O-m” or “A-u-m” The vibrational tone of the word “Om”, in ancient belief, is considered to be the first sound of creation, the first ‘breath’, if you will, of the Divine.
To use the “A-U-M” version, think of the “A” as the sound of the inbreath, continue that sound as you begin to exhale, then gently make the “U” sound, which gradually becomes the “M” sound at the end of the exhalation. Begin with the “A” again and repeat.
Try using the inexpensive, foam ear plugs you can buy at any pharmacy. They help you move into your inner silence and focus on your breath, your heartbeat, your very essence.
These are just a few suggestions. Use them as a springboard to create your own and you will have a much more enjoyable experience.
Try to meditate at least once a day.
It will change your life.
Affirmations can be an important part of a meditative practice. You can use them as a mantra during meditation, or throughout the day as a substitution whenever less-than-positive thoughts come up. The more you substitute an affirmation for a negative thought, the more you will find the affirmation taking over and the negative thoughts dwindling. You will find yourself living your affirmation.
In as little as 7 to 14 days of repeating an affirmation you can literally reprogram the neural networks of the brain. But you have to speak or think an affirmation at least 300 times a day until the new belief replaces the old belief. That new belief in turn changes the magnetic field of your body drawing toward you more of the same.
I am in the universe, the universe is in me.
I am Spirit; I am not of the body, not of the ego.
I am a sensual extension of a sensual universe; the Divine is in a flower; is in me; is in everything.
All relationships mirror my personal growth – good and ill; I will learn from them.
I release all psychological, environmental and spiritual toxins.
I no longer need approval, which is a fear based need.
I acknowledge my dark side and release it.
I shall not judge and criticize.
I replace fear with love.
I live in the NOW; I am life centered.
There is no past, no future, only this present moment where the Divine dwells.
I celebrate the uncertainty, which is where all possibilities lie.
I am a being of Light and Love.
Miracles happen wherever I go.
All that I need comes easily to me.
Love comes to me easily and effortlessly and I accept it now.
My health and body are perfect and I am stronger every day.
I am now employed in the perfect work for me.
Abundance comes to me effortlessly and I am grateful for it and I deserve it.